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This episode wraps up the book club discussion of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry with the remaining ten practices for slowing down, plus a personal, unscripted reflection on trusting God through uncertainty. The episode opens with a raw moment about navigating law school as a non-traditional student, including a candid conversation with God about wanting to see the bigger picture before feeling secure in obedience. The takeaway: God often withholds the full plan on purpose, not to withhold comfort, but to keep us dependent on Him rather than on our own self-sufficiency. From there, the conversation returns to the list of 20 practices for slowing down, picking up at number 11 and continuing through number 20. Topics include setting boundaries around email and social media, the debate over cutting out television entirely, the case for single-tasking over multitasking, taking a regular day of silence and solitude, journaling, mindfulness and meditation through a Christian lens, taking real vacations, and the value of slowing down around food, whether that means cooking at home or being intentional while eating out. The episode closes out the book club pick with a reflection on the book's epilogue and an open question about what to read next. Key Highlights A personal reflection on asking God for the "big picture" and what He said in response Why God sometimes keeps the full plan hidden, even when you are being obedient Practices 11 through 20 for slowing down, including thoughts on which ones felt useful and which felt overly rigid A respectful disagreement with the author's stance on cutting out TV entirely Why single-tasking, not multitasking, is the one non-negotiable on the list The value of a monthly day of silence and solitude, and a smaller, more realistic version of it Mindfulness and meditation reframed through scripture rather than secular practice Closing thoughts on the book's epilogue and an open call for the next book club pick Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode wraps up the discussion on simplicity and moves into the fourth and final practice of unhurried living: slowing. Before diving in, the episode opens with a personal reflection on what it looked like to actually live this out — a season of downsizing a business, laying off a team, and trusting God's call to slow down even when it made no practical sense. From there, the conversation shifts to contentment — specifically the way Paul uses "I can do all things through Christ" in Philippians, not as a battle cry for achievement, but as a testimony about being at peace in any circumstance. Contentment is framed not as the absence of ambition, but as the ability to hold desire without striving — checking with God before chasing the next opportunity rather than figuring it out on your own. The episode then moves into the author's 20 practical tips for slowing down, covering the first ten. The list centers heavily on driving habits and phone use — driving the speed limit, arriving early without your phone, and intentionally creating a "dumb phone" experience by removing notifications, social media, and email. Several tips are reflected on personally, including changes made to phone settings after reading the chapter. Key Highlights What it actually looked like to obey God's call to slow down in the middle of a business crisis The difference between toxic ambition and healthy drive — and how healing changes what you are chasing and why Contentment as restraint, not passivity — wanting more while still being at peace with where you are Reading Ecclesiastes as a practical starting point for anyone who wants to pray for contentment The first 10 of 20 practical tips for slowing down, with honest reactions to each A personal phone audit — which notifications stayed, which were deleted, and why Products Available — Moving Sale! Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone! Available now: GOD is My CEO: A Prayer Journal for Entrepreneurs (Limited Edition — gold spiral binding, hardcover, full-color, tabbed) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/hlsLhd-AVdk Podcast Planner (Physical planner with everything Tatum has learned from 9+ years of podcasting and helping 150+ people launch) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/bfpY3zdG9aA She Is Uncompromising (The book — includes access to a bonus masterclass) 👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we continue our discussion of John Mark Comer's book The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, picking up with his chapter on simplicity and money. Episode Overview This episode covers Comer's chapter on simplicity, including his take on Jesus' teachings about money, the practice of minimalism, and 12 principles for simpler living. The episode also includes a running critique of where the author's analysis of wealth falls short. Key Discussion Points On Jesus and money Comer argues that roughly 25% of Jesus' teachings address money and possessions, and that nearly none of them are positive toward wealth accumulation. He connects three short teachings from Matthew 6 — on storing treasures in heaven, the lamp of the body, and serving two masters — to one long teaching on worry, making the case that what we worship, we worry about. The episode pushes back on this framing. Jesus' statements like "it is more blessed to give than to receive" and "you cannot serve both God and money" are not condemnations of wealth itself. They are observations about the condition of the heart. Money funds generosity, finances kingdom work, and creates the margin to serve others well. The issue is not wealth but what wealth does to a person's heart when it becomes their source of identity or security. A personal example: being a landlord to a tenant facing breast cancer and financial hardship. Having financial margin allowed for grace — accepting late or partial payments, covering the mortgage independently — in a way that would not have been possible otherwise. That is wealth functioning as a tool for kingdom living. On the author's framework Comer eventually acknowledges the tension — noting that Jesus was supported by wealthy donors, had disciples manage a budget, and shared meals with rich friends — but does not spend enough time there. The scriptures he cites actually contain the nuance he underexplores. When someone uses scripture primarily to validate a point already formed, rather than letting scripture shape the point, it is worth noticing. That pattern reveals a lot about how a person is operating, even if unintentionally. What minimalism actually is (and is not) Comer offers several clarifications: It is not a design aesthetic or a style preference. It is not poverty or living without enjoyment. It is not organizing your stuff — if you have so much that it requires organizing, labeling, and boxing, you likely have too much. Minimalism is the intentional promotion of what you value most and the removal of what distracts from it. It applies not just to possessions but to time, mental load, and the condition of the heart. Hurry is not only a physical state — it is a condition of the mind. Comer's 12 Principles for Simple Living Before buying, consider the true cost — maintenance, time, insurance, and what it will do to the pace of your life. Before buying, ask whether the purchase harms the poor or the earth. The garment industry is a direct example: in the 1960s, 95% of American clothing was made in the U.S.; today it is 2%, often produced under exploitative conditions. (Covered within principle 2 — the ethics of globalized manufacturing.) When you do buy, opt for fewer, better things. Buy it once. When you can, share. Community and the sharing economy reduce the need to own. Get into the habit of giving things away. Generosity is both practical and life-giving. Personal example: passing along baby clothes and supplies within community, and using the school's used uniform shop to outfit a child for a fraction of retail cost. Live by a budget. In a culture that glorifies frivolous spending, budgeting is a form of good stewardship. Enjoyment belongs in the budget — but so does discipline. Learn to enjoy things without owning them. Parks, libraries, coffee shops, and natural spaces are available to everyone. Cultivate a deep appreciation for creation. Cultivate a deep appreciation for simple pleasures. Recognize advertising for what it is. (Partial disagreement here: advertising is not propaganda or lying — there are laws against false advertising. The more accurate takeaway is to be intentional about not purchasing what you do not actually need.) Lead a cheerful revolt against materialism. Actively and joyfully reject the pull toward accumulation. Scripture Referenced Matthew 6 (Sermon on the Mount — storing treasures, the lamp of the body, serving two masters, and do not worry) 1 Timothy 6:17-19 (Paul's command to the rich in Ephesus) Connect and Share Leave a comment on Spotify, share this episode, or send an email with your thoughts — especially your perspective on the critique of how wealth and money were framed throughout this chapter. Products Available — Moving Sale! Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone! 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In this episode, we continue our journey through The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, diving into the third principle of unhurried living: simplicity. Before getting into the chapter, there is a quick reminder about the moving sale — physical copies of the God Is My CEO Prayer Journal, the podcast planner, and She Is Uncompromising are still available for just $5 each plus shipping. Orders of 10 or more ship free. Links are in the show notes. The episode opens with a reflection on Sabbath practices from last week's discussion, including a practical tip for using AI tools like ChatGPT or Claude to generate hobby ideas that align with rest and worship — not work. From floral arranging to crafting custom tea blends, the goal is finding activities that slow you down and reconnect you with the beauty of God's creation. The heart of the episode centers on what the author calls the "gospel of America" — the cultural belief that life's meaning is found in accumulation and consumption. Drawing on Jesus' own words about wealth, greed, and the deceitfulness of riches, listeners are challenged to honestly examine whether they would follow God even if success never looked the way they envisioned. The episode also takes a critical look at the history of American consumerism, the rise of lifestyle marketing and influencer culture, and the very real spiritual danger of allowing things — cars, clothes, brands, and clout — to become identity markers. A Princeton study by Kahneman and Deaton, originally placing the happiness income threshold at $75,000 (approximately $108,500 in today's dollars), sparks a candid pushback: money is not the problem when it is used to buy freedom, experiences, and time rather than stuff. The episode challenges the author's framing while affirming his core point — the relentless accumulation of things accelerates hurry and pulls us away from the unhurried life Jesus modeled. The episode wraps before the chapter's 12 practical tips on simplicity, which will be covered in the next episode. Key Highlights Moving sale is still active — prayer journals, podcast planner, and more available for $5 each; orders of 10 or more ship free Using AI tools to brainstorm Sabbath-friendly hobbies that cannot be turned into a business The "gospel of America" — how consumerism has replaced religion as the dominant system of meaning in Western culture A hard introspective question: would you still follow God if your business never produced the results on your vision board? The history of how corporate America deliberately engineered a culture of consumption after World War II A challenge to Christian content creators who promote products to examine whether that activity contributes to consumerism The $75,000 happiness study — published in 2010, equivalent to roughly $108,500 today — and why a fixed happiness ceiling is worth questioning The distinction between spending money on stuff versus spending money on freedom, time, and experiences Next episode: the remaining half of the simplicity chapter, including 12 practical tips from the author Products Available — Moving Sale! Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone! Available now: GOD is My CEO: A Prayer Journal for Entrepreneurs (Limited Edition — gold spiral binding, hardcover, full-color, tabbed) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/hlsLhd-AVdk Podcast Planner (Physical planner with everything Tatum has learned from 9+ years of podcasting and helping 150+ people launch) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/bfpY3zdG9aA She Is Uncompromising (The book — includes access to a bonus masterclass) 👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're continuing our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, and this week we're diving into Part Three — the how of living an unhurried life. After covering silence and solitude last episode, today we go deep on one of the most underrated and underused spiritual practices in Christian spaces: the Sabbath. But first — Tatum shares a raw and beautiful testimony from her quiet time this week, a moment on the floor in her daughter's room that turned into a soul-restoring encounter with the Father. She also gets real about a revelation she received for Christian entrepreneurs: the difference between your working relationship with God and your personal relationship with Him — and why both matter. In This Episode Testimony: What happened when Tatum lay on the floor, didn't know what to pray, and started speaking in tongues — and why she bawled her eyes out The working relationship vs. the personal relationship with God — a word for veteran Christian entrepreneurs who have the rhythm down but may be missing the closeness The YouTube plan she shelved — and why she chose the Father over the plan What is the Sabbath? The Hebrew meaning of Shabbat (to stop) and why God built this rhythm into the DNA of creation Desire, restlessness, and the digital age — how advertising monetizes our restlessness and why only God can satisfy infinite desire What happens to your mind, body, and soul when you fight the Sabbath rhythm — including what happened in France when they tried a 10-day work week The statistics: Why Seventh-Day Adventists live 10 years longer than the average American Two lists: Restfulness vs. Relentlessness — which one describes your life right now? Practical tips for busy bodies who struggle with the "in-between" of rest — including how Tatum's Friday grocery habit accidentally created a more restful weekend What the Sabbath actually looks like — the author's family practice and how to find what works for yours Working from rest, not for rest — and why the Sabbath is the climax of the week, not just a break in it Next episode: Simplicity Key Quote "The Sabbath isn't just a 24-hour time slot in your weekly schedule. It's a spirit of restfulness that goes with you throughout your week. A way of living with ease, gratitude, appreciation, peace, and prayer. A way of working from rest, not for rest, with nothing to prove. A way of bearing fruit from abiding and not ambition." — John Mark Comer, The Ruthless Elimination of HurryTatum's Word for Christian Entrepreneurs As you grow in doing business God's way, don't let the working relationship replace the personal one. You can be in rhythm with God in your business and still have a void in your closeness to Him as His daughter. Tend to both. The business meetings with God matter — and so does just lying at His feet with nothing to say. Resources Mentioned 📖 Book Club Pick: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer — [grab your copy here] 🛒 Products Available — Moving Sale! Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone! Available now: 📒 GOD is My CEO: A Prayer Journal for Entrepreneurs (Limited Edition — gold spiral binding, hardcover, full-color, tabbed) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/hlsLhd-AVdk 🎙️ Podcast Planner (Physical planner with everything Tatum has learned from 9+ years of podcasting and helping 150+ people launch) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/bfpY3zdG9aA 📚 She Is Uncompromising (The book — includes access to a bonus masterclass) 🙏🏾 Business Meetings with God — 90-Day Devotional (Includes 2 bonus masterclasses: "How to Have a Business Meeting with God" by Tatum Temia + "How to Prioritize Your Time with God" by Roslyn Rene, LSMW) 👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop 💛 Attention Churches, Women's Groups & Communities Do you lead or belong to a women's ministry, small group, sorority, or community organization? If your order is 10 or more items, the products are FREE — you only pay shipping. The discount is automatically applied at checkout. This is Tatum's way of blessing communities of women with tools to grow closer to the Lord together. 👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer. This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude. From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being. She unpacks: Why boredom used to be a gift How technology keeps us spiritually distracted Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength The difference between solitude and isolation How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos. Key Takeaways Boredom Was Once Sacred Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God. God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play. The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully. Silence Is More Than External Quiet True silence includes: External silence (turning off noise and distractions) Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter) Solitude Is Healing Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place. Discussion Topics from This Episode Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments The emotional impact of constant stimulation Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude Mentioned in This Episode The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God. Special Product Super Sale As Tatum prepares for a move, she discovered a limited inventory of some fan-favorite resources that are officially back while supplies last. These products have been sold out for quite some time and are being offered at deeply discounted prices — once they’re gone, they’re gone. Featured Products God Is My CEO Prayer Journal: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop A guided prayer and reflection journal designed to help Christian entrepreneurs strengthen their relationship with God while building in alignment with His will. Perfect for: Daily prayer and reflection Processing vision and strategy with God Cultivating intimacy and spiritual discipline Entrepreneurs seeking faith-centered leadership The Planner for Podcasters : https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop A strategic planning resource for podcasters and content creators who want to stay organized, consistent, and intentional with their podcast growth and content execution. Inside includes: Content planning tools Episode organization Goal-setting prompts Production workflow support 90-Day Devotional: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop A devotional created to help believers grow spiritually, stay anchored in faith, and build consistent time with God over the course of 90 days. Designed for: Daily encouragement Spiritual growth Building consistency in devotion time Strengthening faith through practical reflection Visit: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tatum is in the trenches of her first-year law school finals, so this week she's bringing back one of her most foundational episodes — and as she always says, when an oldie comes back around, trust that the Lord is bringing it back for a reason. Whether you've heard it before or this is your first time, this one is worth sitting with. In this episode, Tatum opens up about the early years of making God the CEO of her business and introduces a new series focused on the application of faith-driven entrepreneurship — not just the information, but the lived practice. Before diving into strategy, marketing, or business plans, she makes the case that we have to start with sobriety: freeing ourselves from the influences, distractions, and cultural pressures that pull our focus away from the Lord and onto the metrics of the world. In this episode, Tatum covers: Why sobriety is the non-negotiable foundation before any business building can begin The story of how obedience during a season of stripping and pruning led to her most fruitful breakthroughs The moment she hit her first six-figure year — and why her reaction to it changed everything How entrepreneurship can become its own kind of intoxication A word for anyone being called to pioneer something new, even when it feels lonely and irrational The 5 Substances to Detox From: Success culture and performance pressure Digital noise and comparison Mixed mentorship Materialism and metrics-based validation Over-independence Scriptures Referenced: 1 Peter 5:8 1 Thessalonians 5:6–8 Mark 14:38 Action Step: Download the free Clarity Cleanse guide (linked in show notes) — a month-long detox plan with weekly focus areas, scriptures, action steps, and prayer points to help you build the sober, focused foundation your business needs. Join the Society — Tatum's membership community for Christian women growing in life, faith, and business. Weekly prayer calls, Bible studies, daily devotionals, and a community of women walking this out with you. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, wrapping up the final chapter of Part Two and covering the intermission that sets the stage for Part Three. We open with one of the most convicting observations in the book: Jesus was rarely — if ever — in a hurry. Through stories like the raising of Lazarus and the healing of Jairus's daughter, the author paints a picture of a Savior who was fiercely present, completely unhurried, and never agitated by interruption. That kind of peace has a name we hear a lot today: a regulated central nervous system. In this episode, we break down what that actually means, share some eye-opening data about how many of us are functioning in a state of chronic stress, and then make the case that Jesus didn't just model a regulated nervous system — He modeled something that surpasses the very standard modern science is striving toward. We then dig into the concept of margin — the space between your load and your limits — and get practical about what it looks like to actually build it into your life. From contingency planning and backup childcare to protecting your mornings and setting an evening shutdown time, this episode gets real about what margin looks like for busy women wearing multiple hats. From there, we explore the trellis metaphor: just as a trellis gives a vine the structure it needs to grow and bear fruit, a rule of life gives your walk with Jesus the structure it needs to actually take root. We talk about why Jesus must be the center — not career, not motherhood, not success — and how the structures we build either support or undermine that priority. We close out with the intermission from the book, which sets up Part Three by distinguishing between discipline and spiritual discipline — and why the latter gives you access to a power that willpower alone simply cannot reach. In this episode: Why Jesus is the ultimate example of a regulated nervous system (and then some) What nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — and the stats that prove it's a public health issue The difference between a full schedule and a hurried one How to create a contingency plan so that life's interruptions don't blow up your whole week What a "rule of life" is and why it started in the monastery, not Silicon Valley The trellis metaphor and why structure isn't the enemy of freedom — it's the path to it How to approach the four Gospels the same way you'd read a biography of someone you admire Willpower vs. spiritual discipline: why one gets you so far and the other gets you to Jesus 📖 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer — grab your copy Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Tatum unpacks the difference between selfish ambition and godly ambition, challenging listeners to examine not just what they are pursuing, but why. Through personal reflection, biblical teaching, and practical examples, she reveals how easy it is to drift into misalignment—even with good intentions. This conversation calls you into deeper self-awareness, Spirit-led decision-making, and true wholeness, emphasizing that sustainable success in both life and business must be rooted in God. Key Takeaways Ambition itself is not wrong, but its source determines whether it is aligned with God. Self-awareness is critical for identifying the true motivations behind your goals. External success can hide internal misalignment. Godly ambition is led by the Holy Spirit, not by outcomes, validation, or trends. Your definition of success will evolve as you grow in faith and maturity. True alignment requires healing from the brokenness that often drives achievement. Scriptures Referenced Philippians 2:3 (ESV): Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. James 3:13–16: A warning against selfish ambition, describing it as earthly and leading to disorder. Galatians 5:22–23: The fruit of the Spirit as evidence of a Spirit-led life. What is Selfish Ambition? Selfish ambition is a drive rooted in: Ego Pride Comparison Control Brokenness Desire for validation It is not always obvious. It can begin with good intentions but becomes misaligned when God is no longer the source. What is Godly Ambition? Godly ambition is: Spirit-led Rooted in obedience Focused on serving God and others Centered on bringing God glory rather than personal recognition The defining factor is what is driving your decisions: the Holy Spirit or your desire for results. The Subtle Shift from Godly to Selfish Ambition A key example shared in the episode illustrates how this shift can happen: You begin in obedience and full dependence on God You experience growth and positive results Results slow down or decline You begin seeking external solutions (trends, algorithms, validation) Your source shifts from God to performance This shift is often gradual and difficult to detect without intentional self-examination. How to Course Correct When you feel frustrated or see changes in results: Pause instead of reacting impulsively Take your emotions to God honestly Ask: Did I get off track? Is there something you want me to change? Wait for His response Obey, whether He says to adjust or remain consistent The goal is to remain aligned with God, not to chase outcomes. The Root Issue: Brokenness Many forms of ambition are driven by unresolved issues such as: A need for validation Fear of lack or instability Desire for control Past wounds or trauma Without healing, it becomes difficult to sustain a God-centered approach to success. Measuring Your Motivation: The Fruit of the Spirit Use the fruit of the Spirit as a diagnostic tool: Love Joy Peace Patience Kindness Goodness Faithfulness Gentleness Self-control If these are absent in your process or decision-making, it may indicate misalignment. Action Step: Fast and Surrender Tatum encourages listeners to: Fast from 6 AM to 6 PM (if medically able) Spend intentional time with God Be honest about fears, control, and disappointment Invite God to address the root causes of misalignment This is not about behavior modification but heart transformation. Reflection Questions What is driving my ambition right now? Am I seeking God’s approval or external validation? Where have I prioritized outcomes over obedience? What unresolved issues may be influencing my goals? Final Encouragement God is not focused on your performance—He is focused on your heart. Seasons of slowing down, stagnation, or even decline are not punishment. They are often invitations to return to alignment, deepen intimacy with God, and rebuild from a place of wholeness Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club discussion of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, shifting from diagnosing the problem of hurry to uncovering the solution. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in a cycle of doing too much, this episode is your invitation to something deeper: the lifestyle of Jesus. We explore what it truly means to follow Jesus—not just in belief, but in daily practice—and how embracing an apprenticeship mindset can transform your pace, your peace, and your purpose. Key Takeaways: 1. The Answer Isn’t More Time—It’s a New Way to Live We often think the solution to overwhelm is more hours in the day. But more time doesn’t fix a misaligned life—it just gives us more space to stay busy. True freedom comes from reordering our lives around God, not productivity. 2. You’re Not Just a Believer—You’re an Apprentice To follow Jesus is to apprentice under Him: Be with Jesus Become like Jesus Do what He would do This perspective shifts your posture from control to humility, from striving to learning. 3. Your Life Reflects Your Lifestyle If you’re experiencing: Anxiety Burnout Constant stress Disconnection from God …it’s not random. Your current systems and rhythms are producing those results. “Every system is perfectly designed to get the results that it gets.”4. You Can’t Want Jesus’ Life Without Adopting His Lifestyle Many of us want: His peace His clarity His joy …but we’re not willing to live how He lived. Following Jesus is not compartmentalized—it’s a full-life transformation, not just Sunday behavior or spiritual moments. 5. Burnout Is a Sign You’re Living Outside of God’s Design Burnout isn’t just exhaustion—it’s a signal. It often means you’ve made your dwelling place somewhere God never intended. The invitation? Come back home. 6. Stop Praying Your Will—Start Seeking His A powerful personal story highlights how easy it is to pray what we want instead of surrendering to God’s will. When you approach God as an apprentice—not the one in charge—you: Release control Stay open to correction Avoid unnecessary frustration and confusion 7. Self-Awareness Is a Spiritual Discipline Slowing down enough to: Notice your reactions Evaluate your routines Check your alignment …is key to transformation. Self-awareness allows you to course correct in real time and grow in spiritual maturity. 8. Jesus Doesn’t Offer Escape—He Offers Equipment Life is hard. That’s not changing. But instead of removing the weight, Jesus teaches us how to carry it differently: With Him At His pace With His peace An easy life isn’t promised—but an easy yoke is.Practical Application: This week, begin living like an apprentice: Pause throughout your day and ask: “What would Jesus do?” Set reminders to check in with your thoughts, reactions, and stress levels Pay attention to moments where you feel rushed, anxious, or out of alignment Surrender areas where you’ve been forcing your will Scripture Highlight: Matthew 11:28–30 “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…” Final Thought: If you want the life of Jesus, you have to adopt the lifestyle of Jesus. This isn’t about doing more—it’s about living differently. Resources Mentioned: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com * Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com * Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com * Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy