Leaving an Abusive Christian Marriage: Why the Church Blames You [396]

For years I tried to get my religious community to see what was happening in my home. It didn’t work. They joked about it in the church parking lot, then excommunicated me. In this episode, I read a story I wrote called “Who Burned the House Down?”

If you’ve ever tried to tell someone about the gasoline in your house and been told you better never light a match, you’ll want to hear this story. Maybe it will help you see what is really going on, and who's really been burning your life to the ground.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Abuse that no one can see still hurts you: Your husband can pour gasoline all over your home, and if he makes sure no one catches him at it, no one will believe it’s there.
• You were warned not to light the match: Many Christian women are told that speaking up will destroy their home, their reputation, and God’s name, and that it will all be their fault.
• Staying quiet doesn’t make it stop. 
• The church often blames the woman who speaks up: People who never saw the gasoline see the fire, and they decide you started it.
• You are not alone, and you can walk away free: Other women have already lit the match or are getting ready to, and they know the gasoline in your house is real.

If you’re suffocating under the toxic fumes in your home, you can find support in the Flying Free Kaleidoscope program at joinflyingfree.com.

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