Can I Fall Out Of Love In My Marriage?

Can you fall out of love in your marriage? Aaron and Jennifer Smith, drawing heavily on Gary Thomas's book Sacred Marriage, argue that 'falling in and out of love' is a deceptive phrase that strips love of choice and responsibility and reduces it to feelings we can't control. They walk through common reasons people feel they've fallen out of love, including tough times, unmet needs, unmet expectations, the desire for happiness and comfort, and discontentment. Then they reframe love as a chosen, aggressive commitment modeled on Christ in Gethsemane, and share practical ways to fight apathy: pursuing intimacy, keeping an eternal perspective, practicing discipline, and remembering that the gospel is at stake in your marriage.