Mismatched Sex Drives in Marriage: How to Talk About It with J. Parker

How to talk about sex and intimacy in Christian marriage, even when it feels awkward. Aaron sits down with J. Parker, author of The Higher Desire Wife and creator of the Hot, Holy & Humorous blog, to talk about why the church often stays silent on sex and how that silence leaves couples feeling alone. J. shares how she began writing anonymously about sexual intimacy, explains the difference between responsive and spontaneous desire, and reframes mismatched sex drives, including marriages where the wife has the higher desire, as a "we problem." They talk about letting values lead feelings, the damage of pornography-shaped expectations, and why saying "I want you" instead of "I want sex" reminds both spouses they are wanted.